When I applied for my MBA as an expectant mother, I knew I was signing up for a unique challenge – balancing the demands of a new born with the intensity of a full-time academic programme. The idea of exploring Cambridge with my baby initially felt exciting, but as the start date approached, doubts began to creep in.
The week before my departure was filled with stress and second thoughts. Nursery waiting lists seemed endless, the British weather worried me, and I kept wondering how my 6-month-old baby would adapt to life in a new country. On top of that, my husband – an entrepreneur in Silicon Valley – couldn’t stay with us in Cambridge for long. This meant I would be navigating life as both a student and a full time mum, mostly on my own.
Faced with so many uncertainties, I made the difficult decision to leave my daughter at home in California with my husband, while I went ahead to Cambridge to settle in first. I thought this would make the transition easier, but I hadn’t expected how hard it would be to be away from her. One night, overwhelmed and exhausted, I broke down in tears, wondering if I had made a terrible mistake in pursuing this dream.
But just about a week later, I booked a round trip ticket to bring her to Cambridge – after quickly tackling everything that mattered most. I interviewed nannies, visited nursery schools, met with childminders, and explored every possible way to build a support system. In that whirlwind of problem solving, I realised something profound: where there’s a will, there’s a way. The key wasn’t to dwell on worries, but to focus on solutions – and when I did, everything started to fall into place.
Even more profoundly, I realised that my daughter wasn’t a burden – she was my greatest source of strength. Her presence gave me purpose, focus, and resilience during moments of doubt.
And now, 6 months later, I’m so glad I didn’t give up. I’ve completed two-thirds of my courses, and I’m fully enjoying Cambridge life – from Formal Hall Dinners to College events. My daughter has been by my side through it all, and surprisingly, she’s become one of the best parts of this journey.
One of the most incredible things is that we’ve managed to travel to over 10 countries together. From punting along the River Cam to exploring European cities, she’s been part of so many memorable experiences. While she may not remember these adventures, I believe the exposure to different people, cultures, and environments will stay with her in ways I can’t yet see.
One particularly unforgettable moment happened just recently – my daughter’s first birthday. What made it so special wasn’t just celebrating this milestone in Cambridge, but also a heart warming surprise during our Negotiations Lab. A NASA astronaut, who was a guest speaker, wished her a happy birthday and encouraged her to stay curious and explore the universe. It was such an emotional moment – one that reminded me that, despite all the challenges, this journey is shaping not just my future, but hers too.
Of course, there have been sacrifices. I’ve had to hire a nanny, rent an off campus apartment for convenience, and sometimes miss social events with classmates. There are moments when I feel torn between my studies and motherhood. But despite these challenges, her presence has been my greatest motivation. Every smile, every tiny milestone reminds me why I’m here – not just for my own growth, but to show her that women can pursue their dreams, no matter how tough the journey may seem.
Being a mother during my MBA has given me a different perspective. It’s taught me resilience, patience, and the importance of seeking support. I have also found comfort in connecting with other parents – both in my cohort and across Cambridge – who understand the delicate balance I’m trying to manage.
To other mothers thinking about pursuing their goals – dare to dream. The road may feel uncertain, and doubts will arise. But trust in your strength – you are far more capable than you may believe. The journey – no matter how challenging – can lead to extraordinary rewards for both you and your child.
